Please if you are a Christian look away now because this post is not for you.
Now straight to business, I will start by making some points clear,my certificate of Water Baptism (by immersion o, not sprinkling) by The Redeemed Christian Church Of God, is one of my priced possessions, I have taught Sunday School for about a decade now , I graduated from the Redeemed Christian Church of God’s’s School of Disciples,
and as Apostle Paul advised in 1 Corinthians 9:27 “But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.”
And being a worker in the church for all that time is not beans, neither is it moin-moin, I get to church before 7 am every Sunday after I must have made breakfast ready at home, I attend retreats with biri-biri fasting, chain praying and all the works but I fear that I still might not satisfy some people that I am a Christian and I will tell you why. I have serious difficulty with pretending that all is well and looking the other way when I know that all is indeed not well , I am not a self-righteous Christian and I most likely will never be, see, I find it difficult to judge or to brand people. One of the reasons why I don’t introduce myself as a Christian, or do not announce at first meeting that I am one is that I want people to form an opinion of me first without being biased because of the fact that I am one and also because most Christians are the most pretentious people on the surface of the earth, we are like the proverbial ostrich that buries her head in the sand and leaves the remaining part of her body out and because she can’t see people, she assumes people can’t see her. Who are we kidding? We are very judgemental and discriminatory even among ourselves, we label and categorise people into who will go to hell, and who will not. If for whatever reasons, a person has problems , it’s either she is a sinner, she is not paying her tithes, her offering is not big enough, she does not sow seeds, she is not broken, she is possessed by demons so needs deliverance, she is not submissive to the pastors and Church authority or she is not subservient enough, whichever one it is.
The Church has failed its people, especially the women, so many homes are going through storms, many women and men are suffering in silence and are refusing to seek for help for fear of being branded as not Christians or that their home is not a Christian home so they do not qualify for God’s blessings and answered prayers.Have some of our leaders forgotten this in the book of Mathew 15:25-28? When a Canaanite woman came to meet Jesus for her child’s healing ;…26 But Jesus replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.” 27“Yes, Lord, she said, “- even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.” 28“O woman,” Jesus answered, “your faith is great! Let it be done for you as you desire.” And her daughter was healed from that very hour.
In my last post, I shared about marriage, my own two pence, I was harshly reprimanded, I was told the type of marriage I was referring to was not a Christian marriage, those type of men are not Christians and that I should not share such on a Christian platform. So instead of what I shared, if I have shared a messages such as this
but instead see the type that I like sharing below, am I a good Christian at all?I was told that God is the only authority on marriage, as if I did not know that already ? in fact for the records, God is the only authority on everything, it is only a fool that does not know that. But thank God things are looking up even if slowly; year in year out, RCCG Sunday School manual has a serial of about four lessons on marriage and there is acknowledgement of modern-day occurrences and admonishment concerning them, the manual does not pretend that these problems do not exist , there has also been some policy changes in the Church concerning marriage, for example, introduction of compulsory HIV AIDS test and genotype test for couples intending to get married and they are also encouraged by the Church to have a source of income before considering marriage .
A Christian marriage is not perfect, it is a journey, it is not a destination, there is no one that has arrived there yet, not even the spirit-filled tongue-speaking pastors.Of course there are tenets guiding us, we are not perfect, so a Christian home is not immune to divorce,and to issues such as husband/wife being irresponsible and failing in their God-given duties, and parenting issues such as sexual abuse, masturbation, , and all modern-day aberrations that plague the world now, so rather than pretend that all is well or gag those that are willing to speak up and seek help, we have to deal with it. I f the Church wants to bury its head in the sand for example, it would not require HIV AIDS test result from intending couples, it would just assume that because they are Christians, they are virgins, after all the Bible preaches against sex before marriage . By extension, if we are all saints, there should not be divorce amongst us, there should not be single parents among us, there should not be the issue of having children outside wedlock, but my dear reader, cases abound.My local church has even taken a step further to set up the ‘Matured Singles Fellowship’, the multitude that turn up for this fellowship every time shows that it is what the Church has been waiting for.
With the full-blown advent of social media have come freer access to pornography, morals have taken a nose dive, the world has become a global village and all the abominations hitherto unknown by our children and spouses are being repackaged and sold to us, the time not to pretend is now.You can accuse the devil of everything but not stupidity, he is very smart and he is taking advantage of the situation so we have to watch and pray and back it with action . So in Psalm 11.3, the Bible says; “if the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?”
The righteous , you and me, our mummy pastors and daddy pastors can
- Be realistic, stop playing church and politics with the life and well-being of fellow Christians, if God places you in position of leadership in church, be firm, follow the Bible in your teaching and also the doctrine of your church but at the same time, be open and receptive, be a serving leader not a holier than thou one.Who knows, their marriage might even be faring better than yours.
- Pray, down to earth non discriminatory prayers for everybody, prayer of intercession on each and everyone’s case, your marriage might be perfect and not need prayers but please do pray for others.
- Console and comfort those who need it, man and woman shall not live by fasting and prayer alone, they want closure too, they need acknowledgement that they have been wronged, they want to be told that they do have a problem and it is not their fault and they are not condemned because of that and that in spite of everything Jesus loves them.
- Don’t gag them, don’t hush them up, there is healing in letting out, don’t condemn their spouses, but rather condemn the unchristian acts of the erring spouses,don’t instigate them against each other.
- Accept the fact that our salvation and by extension our judgement is in God’s hands
- Above all lets all hold on to Jesus and share Him together, afterall He is the author and finisher of our faith, Hebrews 12:2, and has called us to come unto Him, all of us that are weak and heavy laden, He has promised that He will give us rest ; Matthew 11:28 and I don’t know about you, that is why I have come.
Moin-moin is a local delicacy made from beans, the phrase simply means what being talked about is not an easy task.
Biri-biri is a three or more days fasting non stop.