This is to all you jealous fathers; I was told by T2 that fathers day came about because mothers have a day so fathers were jealous and wanted to have a day too. Well, I am not sure if that is true but one thing I know is that we can’t do without you fathers, even when you say ‘you belong to nobody but you are for everybody’ , (apologies to Buhari) we know you are joking
Once in a while we throw jabs at you like I did in Of Robust replies and open letters.. and we also want you to examine yourself by reminding you of what your role ought to be like I did in Lets talk about fathers.. and we might not remember to tell you often enough, we want you to know today that we love you and appreciate you. You are irreplaceable in our lives.
It might be your God giving role but we know you are being cheated 😉 , two people get together in marriage, start a family and it is the man that provides accommodation, feeding and funding of the general day-to-day smooth running of the home, provides transport, fuels the car, provides a driver, pays the driver’s salary, pays school fees, in some societies such as ours, adopts the wife’s extended family and his own extended family.The fear of failure and the determination not to disappoint, drives you on a daily basis. The mothers might be making money but a mother’s money is her money while a father’s money is ‘our’ money, i.e. the whole family’s money, now are you still wondering why we don’t take fathers serious when they say they belong to nobody? because we know they belong to us
You are the family’s shield and protector, nobody dares mess up with madam and the children, I have been in some situation where I have had to threaten.. ” Do you know who I am? Do you know who my husband is? And this threat works, believe me. The fear of the father is the beginning of wisdom. You are the backbone and moral support for the mother and the children. The mother needs an extra effort to make things work and make the children turn out right in the absence of a father. You are the constant regular unfailing provider of that other one for the mother :lol:, you dare not say you are tired. We thank God for help like Viagra in the lives of older fathers. Once in a while, you might want to take a break by spending some time with the boys at those beer parlours that are never in short supply in Nigeria, we harass you with phone calls and monitor your movement, … “Where are you ? who are you with? okay let me say hello to them….” that one bottle of beer, we will not allow you have in peace, you have to gulp it down and start rushing home. We have a way of choosing for you your friends and associates no matter how old you are.
As mothers, we know we love you but when was the last time we said it? We know your ego is large by nature, and it needs massaging but we deliberately ration that massaging so that ‘ it will not get to your head ‘ . We know your type is in short supply and so we should put more effort into showing a little bit more appreciation but do we? Well maybe once in a while.
Let me get a bit personal, if Naijadad is a bit late in getting home and he tells me that he has gone to look for what the family is going to eat, I will quickly respond by telling him that our wants are few and we are not “jeun kioku” apologies to Fela Anilulapo Kuti and so he does not have to keep late nights because of us. And any time I seem to be making according to him ” unbearable demands” and he asks me if he is a lion, I tell him yes he is, he is the lion of the tribe of Lagos, and so just like Jesus, his father, who is the lion of the tribe of Judah Rev 5.5 and does not fail, he had better not fail me. And believe me, it works, I just got flight tickets for the whole family for a summer trip 🙂
And what is your compensation? That the mother and the children bear your name? Haba ! our fathers are trying o, biko.
Please lets give a million gbosas to all the performing dads. Gbosa, gbosa, gbosa……..and all the fledging ones, we pray that you recover soon. And to my very own personal Naijadad, ‘ my husband my husband ‘, to all the Naijadads out there and to all the fathers of the world, Naijamum wishes you a happy fathers day.
Gbosa means kudos
Biko means please
Haba means please lets aknowlegde a fact as a fact, lets give honour/credit to who it is due. And jeun kioku was translated by Fela Anikulapo Kuti himself to mean ‘chop and quench’